Friday, September 15, 2017

Parents, listen up.

 

 I decided to write this post especially for the parents. You guys do an amazing job at raising your children. I have nieces and nephews, I don't know the whole raising thing but I know to some extent.  This post isn't to criticize your teaching methods at all just another thing to think about as your child grows up.
 
  All through grade school I had to deal with the pointing, stares, whispers, bullies and a lot more. My class always had my back because my mom would go in on the first day and teach them about me so I wouldn't have to deal with people bulling me in my own classroom. But that doesn't mean it didn't happen, other classes who didn't know about me whispered, pointed, laughed, made fun of me right in front of my face not realizing I could hear just fine. My class mates stood up for me but some times I'd tell my teacher or another adult. But that didn't necessarily stop it. Sometimes it made it worse because the kid or kids would be mad. It didn't happen all the time but sometimes it did.
 
   So this is my two cents for you parents raising your children, teach them that it's okay to not look "Normal", teach them that not every one is the same, that nobody talks the same, nobody laughs the same, and that we all bleed the same color red. Teach them that if they see a child being bullied you stop it. That if someone is feeling all alone you include them, teach them to talk to one new person daily so they start to see more than their inner circle of friends,  teach them to open their friend circle to everyone in middle school my friends and I had a table that we invited people to sit at everyday, it opened our friend circle and by the end of the year we had about five tables smashed together full of our new friends, teach them to not laugh, point, stare at someone just because they look different. I mean honestly nobody is normal, one of my favorite quotes is from the movie "Incredibles" it goes like " Normal? What do you know about normal? What does anyone in this family know about normal? We act normal, Mom; I want to be Normal! The only Normal one is Jack-Jack and he's not even toilet-trained!" Why do I love this so much? Because I guarantee you every person who isn't "Normal" feels like this at some point in their lives.
 
  Teach your child to reach out and accept people and if they have a question just ask the person. I promise we've heard it all before. Don't try and stop your child in public if they have a question. They are trying to understand. Let them ask. So they understand that it's okay to be different.  And please teach them love for everyone. Teach them to have an open heart and mind when they meet someone. Please I ask you so that kids like me and other children don't feel like they don't matter, or that their ugly, or stupid, or whatever kids come up with. I promise you to have a child who feels like their the only one in the world to feel left out or depressed is the most horrible thing. How do I know? I've been there and I never want any other child to feel that way.

  Please think about this as you are raising your child. You are doing an amazing job, keep up the good work. Be proud of your children because they are something to be proud of. Never stop loving them even the days when you could strangle them. Most children learn by example so I invite you to do all the things I have just stated above, not just for people who look different but for everyone. If yo have any questions feel free to leave them below and I'll get to them. Thank you for reading.
  Oh for those who don't know I have an article out that's getting pretty famous here's the link to the article. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-4861356/Woman-facial-defect-hits-bullies.html
and heres the link to the video http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-4861356/Woman-facial-defect-hits-bullies.html
I invite you to share it so I can get my message out.  Thank you once again!